AN ASTROLOGER’S TALE FROM FARAWAY PLACES

August 11, 20137 Comments

“Astrology for the Astrologically Challenged,” by Deborah Smith Parker

This post is about stuff that can’t be taught in astrology classes. It can only be bestowed. Following are a couple of examples. (Cue “Twilight Zone” theme, please.)

Astrologer & clientFirst case: This was the first time this happened to me. I’d been in practice about a year and was doing an astrological consultation with a young woman referred to me by a friend. In her phone call to schedule the appointment she was eager to see me as soon as possible, so I was a little surprised when she arrived all clenched up, sitting down with balled fists, clenched jaw, legs twisted around each other. You get the picture.

I started with a chronological reading which I don’t often do but felt this was the way to begin with her. This happened nearly 35 years ago so I don’t remember the specifics of the chart but I remember enough — and I vividly recall this exchange that took place.

I described configurations in the second and third houses of her chart indicating that when she was still a preschooler something majorly disruptive happened in her family involving a sibling. It resulted in her feeling as if she’d suddenly been sidelined skewering her self-worth. I asked her if she could please talk a little about this because it was relevant to what she was going through right now—problems in a relationship.

She clenched up even more tightly – and I didn’t think that was possible. “No,” she said coldly. “No, nothing like that happened.”

I tried another tack. I explained that the astrological chart and its symbols operate on many levels which can indicate a range of meanings, offering some other possibilities for her consideration.

Every path I took she was there ahead of me to cut me off.

Then we just stared at each other. A solid sense was building inside me that I was correct in my original assessment but wasn’t sure how to proceed. Then I surprised myself and her.

“Look,” I said. “I know something happened at that time within your family involving a sibling that changed your life, and that is a linchpin for the situation you’re in now in your relationship (8th house transits/progressions galore). I know something critical happened that has been locked up inside you and now is the time for that to come out. You don’t have to address it but if we don’t I see no point in continuing this consultation.”

I then offered to refund her money if she didn’t want to go on and said I would understand. More staring. After a long pause she heaved a huge sigh. Finally she began to tell me her story.

She had been an only child until her younger brother was born. He was severely disabled from birth. From that point on he was the focus of all parental attention and resources. She was shuffled off to live with an ever changing cast of relatives. She truly had been sidelined and her astrological consult started to open an important door for her.

I have never been one who sees astrology as a substitute for therapy and strongly suggested – since she now was acknowledging and talking about what had happened – that she follow up with a therapist after our session.

Second case: Many years later I struck up a friendship with a therapist. As she learned more about astrology she started sending me referrals. She says that I not only “soften them up for therapy” but I give them insights into their lives and patterns that help them identify and begin to move through stuck places that would take a long time to get to in the therapeutic process. This next case was a referral from her. She told me nothing about her (which I prefer), just that she thought she would benefit from as astrological approach–outside the box.

When the woman called for an appointment she said she was primarily interested in knowing where she should go on Ancient horoscopevacation. I was surprised at this, knowing the source of the referral. I told her I didn’t do that kind of astrology and said I’d be glad to refer her to an astrologer who did. She took down the name and number and I thought that was the end of that.

A couple of days later she called back and said she thought she’d like to come in for a consultation, that she’d like to know what would come up. An understatement considering what happened!

I printed out the chart with the transits and progressions and took my first look. That’s when it hit me. It wasn’t just an impression, it was a declarative sentence — spoken loudly and clearly inside my head: “Your body carries a secret about your father you wanted no one to know.”

It occupied center stage in my mind. My first thought was that this was another incest case. I’d just had a run on them. I seem to have a knack for seeing not just incest but other types of sexual abuse in charts (confirmed by the client). But as I continued to look I realized that wasn’t it.

It was another day before her appointment and the entire time that sentence dangled in front of my consciousness like the sword of Damocles. I realized the only thing I could do was lead with it.

When she arrived and we sat down I said, “This may sound very strange but this is what your chart is telling me. I don’t know what it means but I trust you will.”

I had always heard the expression “the color drained from her face” but had never personally witnessed it—until that day. She was a native of Guam, fairly dark-skinned and when I told her the sentence she turned very pale. She couldn’t say anything for a while and then haltingly spluttered, “How . .  could . . . you . . . know . . . that?”

I explained it was something revealed by the chart but I didn’t know what it meant beyond the actual meaning of the statement except it was probably the most important thing we could deal with that day. (I also told her that chart indicators were that this revelation was tied to addressing marital issues at the moment which it turned out was also true.) After several minutes she was finally able to tell me what it meant.

She was a little girl when the Japanese invaded Guam during World War II. Her mother then confided in her young daughter that her father was part Chinese but it wasn’t well known. It was well known, however, that the Japanese would probably kill him if they knew his heritage. She was told she must never tell anyone if she wanted her father to live. Daily this was impressed upon her, added to which she could also be killed since she too was part Chinese.

It was a terribly heavy burden – this secret her mind and body carried. She so loved her father and it was terrifying to her that any slip on her part could cost him his life and possibly hers.

This story doesn’t have a particularly happy ending in that war-torn country. Still, she carried that burden all those years, never disclosing her dangerous truth sealed tightly in the tomb of her youth– until she walked through my front door more than 50 years later.

I suspect that most of us who’ve been around the astrology “biz” for a while have had these experiences and I’d love to know what some of yours are.

In my next post I’ll address what mechanics I think are in play that facilitate these “drop ins.”

Deborah Smith Parker, astrologer and writer, is the author of “Humanus Astrologicus” and “The Horse that Haunts My Heart” available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle. To sign up to receive her blog or follow her on Twitter (@astro_logicus) and Facebook click to the right of this post.

 

 

 

About author:

Deborah Smith Parker is re-writing the often impenetrable language of astrology into a much friendlier form. She has spent her 30 plus years as an astrological consultant, writer, teacher and lecturer freeing the rich astrological images and their descriptions increasingly buried under modern clinical and technological descriptions. Her additional work in public policy has provided many outlets for demonstrating her ability to break down highly complex systems into information that’s easily understood.

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7 Responses to “AN ASTROLOGER’S TALE FROM FARAWAY PLACES”

  1. Jill Estensen says:

    Hi Deborah. I love that you share this information. As an astrologer and an intuitive counselor, I find that my intuition leads me to the places in a chart that are most important for my client to understand. That is what I thought until I read this article. Intuition, being everything a person has experienced in this life or another life, is perhaps taking me to a place in my own pasts where I understood how astrology works better than my now. Great mind opener this morning!!! Thank YOU!

  2. Tami says:

    Hi Deborah,

    I really enjoyed this blog entry and would love to chat with you more about seeing these events in charts…. and I love your writing voice!
    Tami

  3. Inez says:

    A few years ago I saw tremendous affection for a co-worker in the chart of a client. I said to her, “It’s just you and Bobby Magee.” I thought I was speaking metaphorically, referring to the Janis Joplin song. It just popped into my mind. She said to me, “You’re freaking me out. The man’s name is actually Bobby Magee!”

  4. I just love your blog posts and your work Deborah! This clearly shows how astrology and therapy can work together – and I wish more therapists knew this! Even though I started out studying astrology a couple decades ago, I have been pulled into healing arts because astrology reveals so much that then needs to be healed. While I cannot do everything, I can often energetically align them to be receptive (and sometimes even physically through herbs) and healing can facilitate more quickly with less “cleansing reactions.” Your gift of healing is SO deep, so perceptive – and beautiful! How freeing it must be for these folks to finally open the door to letting go of what holds them back from their lives! Kudos and HUGS to you today! 🙂

  5. Teri R says:

    Deborah, It is your intuition that makes you unique and keeps me coming back for more. Oh, of course I love the poetry and cowboy songs, but boy, when you nail it, you hit it right on the head.

  6. Deborah: I am so amazed at these stories. Thanks so much for sharing. I think because my work in management required that I NOT dig deep into my employees’ lives that I lost something in the old intuitive way that I used to read charts.

    So, in my case, simply sharing this article is what “the doctor ordered” for me as an astrologer. You are quite the healer, Mrs. Smith-Parker!

  7. Tyrone says:

    You are a true talent, Deborah, and it’s always a pleasure to read your posts. I wish I could learn how you see such intricate details, which clearly help people shake old burdens. I’m going to use this blog-post as a springboard to find out more! Thanks for the inspiration (again!).

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