May 2, 20158 Comments

“Connecting the seen with the unseen,” by Deborah Smith Parker

Over the next few weeks in a series of posts I’m going to plunge into some of the deeper explanations of the six pairs of opposite astrological signs. [Note to astro-muggles: Pairs of astrological signs are Aries/Libra, Taurus/Scorpio, Gemini/Sagittarius, Cancer/Capricorn, Leo/Aquarius, and Virgo/Pisces.]

It’s true that some of their differences, similarities and what connects them are apparent, like Aries (self) and Libra (others)—at least on the surface. However, there are more profound connections not readily visible and which are not necessarily the focus while traveling the often narrow rutted road of human interactions. Rather they are expressions of paths of consciousness we are only beginning to learn to explore.

Scorpio OrionA little background: These pairs of opposite signs are 180 degrees apart, the greatest separation possible inside a circle—and the zodiac is an enormous circle, like a star corona of the  earth. (See image on left) They are so far apart from each other that it takes time, experience and grappling to “get it.”

There are valuable psychological, spiritual and political lessons in understanding something in relation to its opposite. When we begin to see conditions in terms of these complexities it reduces and even eliminates fear. It promotes an increased ability to bring greater civility and tolerance—and most important, new ways of transformation.

This point was stunningly driven home to me one night a few years ago watching Inside the Actor’s Studio. Alan Alda was the guest and I just love fielding insights from his brilliant Aquarian mind. Host James Lipton asked Alda what in his early training helped him most in developing his acting skills.

“Improv,” Alda quickly answered.

Lipton asked if it was because not knowing what the other actors would say or do kept him on his toes. Alda said “no,” which seemed to surprise Lipton and the audience. He went on to explain that it was because he had to learn how to listen—but here’s how he defined listening. He said it wasn’t just hearing what the other person was saying but the willingness to be changed by what the other person said.

Then it hit me: our experience of becoming conscious of the nature of astrological opposites is our process of being changed, of being transformed. To embark on this “adventure” we don’t have to sigh, put down the cold drink and roll out of the hammock. Nope. How the journey generally starts and continues to motivate us is that we’re rolled out of the hammock, the drink spills and there we are. Eventually we get it and start to initiate our own participation.

BABY finding footSometimes it’s a rough even brutal learning process, but most of the time it’s a long slow turn we’re not much aware we’re making. And most important, it’s a natural instinctive process, like a baby first discovering its foot and then realizing it’s her foot, and then finding fun things to do with it like sticking it in her mouth, moving on eventually to other stuff, like walking.

So stay tuned. I’ll start with the first polarity in my next post. Comments?

Deborah Smith Parker is a professional astrologer and writer on many subjects. She is author of the newly released (2014) “The Horse that Haunts My Heart” and (2010) “Humanus Astrologicus,” both available in paperback and Kindle. To sign up to receive her blog or follow her on Twitter (@astro_logicus) and Facebook click to the right of this post.

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Deborah Smith Parker is re-writing the often impenetrable language of astrology into a much friendlier form. She has spent her 30 plus years as an astrological consultant, writer, teacher and lecturer freeing the rich astrological images and their descriptions increasingly buried under modern clinical and technological descriptions. Her additional work in public policy has provided many outlets for demonstrating her ability to break down highly complex systems into information that’s easily understood.

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  1. I like your phrase about change or transformation as the long slow turn we’re not even conscious of making. It all begins with what Alda identifies as the reason he likes improv: the willingness to be changed by what others are saying or doing.

    Life itself is improv. Change or transformation begins when we are open and willing to draw from the lessons of life around us.

  2. Kathy says:

    I loved your Alan Alda quote. Fascinating human being, and I’m going to steal the line – although I’ll give him credit – and you. But I think this definition of listening is something I can offer two couples that I see in couples therapy!

    I certainly am looking forward to your posts on the opposite sides, Deborh

  3. Jill Estensen says:

    Awesome! I can’t wait to read about the syzygies!!! (sp)

  4. Leslie Hickcox says:

    This is very interesting. I am looking forward to reading more. Also, I love the picture with the zodiac circle. Is that yellow ball in the middle represent the Earth or the Sun? i always have trouble conceptualizing these things.

  5. Jim Hennum says:

    That part about allowing what you hear to change you – that’s the real sticker, ain’t it? To hear what your opposite sign may say is one thing, but to get past the natural inclination to oppose anything they represent and instead let it soak in and move you – that’s the real ticket to the land of adulthood! I’ll let you know if I ever arrive there! 😉

  6. Wow. I’m REALLY looking forward to this series. Seems that the changes within us that come from receiving what we aren’t expecting are the most valuable… and just saying that urges me ro rethink a lot of things right now! Thanks, Deborah.

  7. Candi Sary says:

    Powerful post! I love how Alda defined listening. And I love how you used it to make sense of opposites. Looking forward to reading your next post.

  8. Suga says:

    Hi, I am a Taurus with Scorpio Rising…
    While my Twin Adult Son’s are Aquarius/Leo.
    These are the Cards I’ve been dealt.

    So, I especially look forward to your insight on Oppositions.
    Thank you,

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